Week two in Capetown was also peppered with experiences and exciting encounters.
I found one conversation particularly enriching:
A wonderful woman, she had the worst possible conditions (she was still a child in apartheid, grew up in Durban in the township and later became a single mother), really made an enormous career in South Africa. I mean REALLY!
I was especially impressed by the way she talked about everything: grateful, respectful, full of appreciation. She just didn’t allow herself to fall into a victim role. She wanted a better life for herself and her son.
When I asked her how she managed not to get hard and bitter, she said clearly: “That was a decision”.
We agreed that there are certain skills that make the difference for women on the career ladder. And they have nothing to do with assertiveness – which is what we like to think.
It takes much more for us women: humanity, empathy, real personal responsibility and the real game changer is to control one’s own moods and “be in service to others”.
Skills that – and I am very pleased about this – make the difference for women worldwide.
For years, my coaching approach has gone beyond pure knowledge and professional experience. It’s about these special skills that I’ve learned through a lot of research, learning and discipline. Skills that make the difference for my clients. In coaching and in their own lives.
I call it “the art of getting what you want” – and by “art” I mean going out of all situations in such a way that there are no losers, but all the people involved come into their greatness.
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